MY OPINION ON VIBRATORS
First, WHY??? whould you want a peice of plastic or rubber shoved up in you, it's not natural. Whay not just go to Home Depot and buy some PVC piping. lol As for men the men who think that their women using this or them using it on them is cool or neat, UMMMM what they are actually saying is ""I HAVE A SMALL PENIS AND CANT PLEASE MY MATE" That is TRUE or why else would one use a vibrator if they have a mate.(Althought with ot without a mate I think it's sick)
I have more respect for a prostitue who gets paid to be a whore. My husband pleases me, in many ways but I will NOT be a whore to anyone especially the man who claims to love me. Ahh and he would never ask this of me because he LOVES ME and RESPECTS ME. Please dont use the argument of tatto's and piercigngs, people do that and they are not natural. APPLES AND ORANGES PEOPLE.
MAybe im the odd man out, maybe im not hip or with the times. If that's true thank GOD im not.
This post was rather rude. No one even asked for opinions on vibrator use, you just decided to tell everyone who does use one that you think it is unnatural and unhealthy to their relationship. I don't use one myself, but I have considered on for situations other than normal intercourse. I don't see anything wrong with them, and I don't see why you decided to pass judgement on everyone who used them. You don't know why they use them, and no it is not always because they think their partner's penis is 'too small.' Some use it for clitoral stimulation, or durring oral sex, and many other reasons. Your opinion was unsolicited, rudely presented and I think it should be removed from the board. Please try to be more considerate when posting on a public board. You may have greatly offended someone.
Rebecca Ann~
"I will not say; do not weep: for not all tears are evil." Gandalf in Return of the King by J.R.R Tolkein
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Okay, Sorry if you thought I was rude, like I said it's my OPINION 1 Opinion, I did not say that the person using the was bad, or not smart or I would not associate with someone who used them..<<<-----Did U read anything like that. But yes I think it's nasty, but in political correctness I quess I crossed that ever moving wavy, jumping back and forth line. Life is full of opinions, it's everyones choice to choose what upsets the ( when opinions are involved.) I may be wrong, I may be dead #ss wrong and you may be right as rain. My thing is where does it end. My hubby's guy friend told him that they use them on their WOMEN<--yeah WOMEN, nice huh and if I said I would never use one I WAS LYING. Like im hiding some inner wants or someting. What is this mentality. If you want to chritiqe my opinion, I applaud you for standing up for what you believe and I also love a debate. Im not a mean person, im nice to everone. Im just prego ans itchy and wanted to vent sorry if it came out wrong. TRUCE
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Don't knock it until you try it Floridamom! First a vibrator is something different than a dildo that vibrates. A vibrator is used for clitoral stimulation. I love it! AND my husband is great in bed and not lacking down there at all. Although we're not into dildo's, I am a huge fan of using a vibrator especially when you're in a position where your husband can't hit your sweet spot. I take no offense to your post as I know that you haven't tried it and you don't know what you're missing. Some couples use dildo's because sometimes a man can't sustain or get an erection. He may have a low libido. You can't call them dirty or whatever, they have a healthy sex life and are keeping it fresh by using toys. I'm also glad my husband isn't so closeminded that he thinks toys are dirty or that his ego is hurt. I'm lucky to have a man that wants me to have great sex ALL the time. Try it then let us know your opinion!
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"I have more respect for a prostitue who gets paid to be a whore. "
So women who use vibrators are lower then whores? And you don't think that is rude or that someone will take offense to that? I think we have very different opinions on what is considered to be rude or offensive.
It is obvious you have a very nice relaxed sex life that pleases you and your DH. Some people enjoy more spice and enjoy trying out other things.
I have a friend who had tried everything to have an orgasm. She could never have one. Her DH got her a clitoral vibrator and bang! (okay well not bang, it took some work and lots of practice) but in the end she was one very happy camper. The wonderful thing, it opened up more lines of communication between her and DH. Before nothing her DH could do would bring her to orgasm..but now he can. They still play with the vibrator, but they don't have to. I had better let her know she is lower then a whore.
As for it is even more sick for a woman without a mate to use one...so a single woman must walk around sexually frustrated? Just because they chose not to be with a partner, they must have no relief? Or they can masturbate, they just can't use a vibrator? I'm not sure where the line is drawn.
There are many people who chose not to use vibrators or sex toys and have satisfying sex lives. There are many people who have chose to use them and have satisfying sex lives. Why make judgements on either one? Do whatever satisfies you the most. Let other people do what they need to do without being made told they are less then whores.
Now the good comment you made, was that your dh loves and respects you. That is wonderful. Nothing at all to do with your opinion on vibrators but it is wonderful to hear.
Oh and your comment on men whose gf or dw use them, that those guys must have small penises...that is so stupid I'm not even going to comment.
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i use a vibrator frequently...that's how i get to o (which my dh loves!)...i've never used a dildo but as far as i'm concerned, between two consenting adults a loving relationship can include whatever they decide and there's absolutely nothing wrong or dirty in that...if you and your dh choose not to use sex toys, that's fine...for you!
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I think one of the things which seemed most rude and offensive in your post was the way you presented it. You didn't way "what is your opinion on vibrators" and open it up for discussion and debate you just said "here is MY opinion." Also, if you had responded to another post which asked for the opnions on vibrator some of the comments would still be unsavory, but not nearly as bad. Be carefull how you present things, especially when you have a very strong opinion on that subject, it is just a good message board rule of thumb.
Rebecca Ann~
"I will not say; do not weep: for not all tears are evil." Gandalf in Return of the King by J.R.R Tolkein
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Yeah your post was kinda hash ... exspecialy since you are knocking somthing you haven't tried ... For me , I like to experiment with my sexuality and try "new" things ... I can for one say , I do have a Vibrator, and alot of other toys The SD always says I have a toy box ...lol ... I also own porn , actualy alot of porn , more than most guys I know ... I personally think if you never experiment in the bed room, you don't know what you are truly missing out on ! ! !
rude!!
Maybe your problem is you need to try one. I can't imagine being so rude, stuffy, and ignorant as to post things about other people's sex lives. No one asked your opinion and maybe you should spend more time examining YOUR sex life, than others. I personally don't care what anyone does with anything, but I do get pissed at people who are as judgemental as you.
Rude or Immature?
Unfortunately, we are not all perfect (especially me!) We all make assumptions/judgements, and then turn right around and say inappropriate things; this happens most when an issue is close to one's heart. I am guilty of this (there are way too many examples in my life to post, but believe me, they exist!), as we all have been at some point or other in our lives.
Perhaps we all need to be a little more forgiving and tolerant, extending special courtesies to each other in these trying and stressful times. There are so many other things we can get upset about: hungry, abused, neglected children, women who suffer from past violence, men who inflict violence on others, and so much more...Vibrators are really such a small issue when the big picture is consulted!
It seems to me that they are distasteful to some, while helpful to others. Men often feel insecure and incompetent around them, hence some of the inappropriate remarks/observances your husband's friend made. That his problem, don't make it yours. Good for you for being strong enough to resist!
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First off, I find your post very rude and very offensive. You could have posted your opinions without calling people like us lower than prostitutes. But I do take into account you have no clue what you are talking about as you have never tried one.
My husband and I have a very good sex life, and Crystalle, I am right there with you, I have a box next to my bed which I call my toy box. It has magazines, and other stuff along with a variety of vibrators. Why do I have these? It is a completly different feeling than what my husband gives me (and he does a great job). They are not the same feelings at all. He knows I have them, he bought them for me. We use them together frequently. I also use them alone. I know he does his thing sometimes, and I am comfortable with that.
He also works offshore (away from home) for 2 weeks out of every month. Yes, I do get mine during that time. Am I a whore for that? No indeed.
You need to watch how you word things, especially when you have no clue what you are talking about. Some of us are not close minded, and enjoy things a little different every now and then.
God, I hope my mom isn't reading this...LOL (not that it matters)
Stephenie
Stephenie (24) and Todd (33)
Edd June 5, 2003
Furbabies: Benny (dog), Annie (dog) and Patches (Cat)
That sounds like fun! I always enjoyed satin ribbon...if you're curious, it can be used for a number of things (blind fold, light bondage, and wrapping "winkies")...
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"I have more respect for a prostitue who gets paid to be a whore." What kind of rude quote is that? How dare you get on here and offend so many rumors. These boards are nice and very OPEN. Everybody is welcome to participate but you better be ready to see a lot of different views and respect the people here. I personally do not plan on using a child walker because I do not feel they're safe and healthy. However, I will not get on here and leave a rude post just because other ladies are using them. Its whatever works for you. If you don't agree with the personal use of vibrators..thats fine, but don't be rude about it! I'm sure you and every person on this board has masturbated at some point in your life. Does that make you a bad person? We're curious people by nature. If we find something we like...chances are - we'll try it over and over again.
Don't be rude. You will enjoy these boards a lot more if you are respectful of others.
Barb(20)TC(21)Married 10/20/01 1St Pregnancy EDD: May 23,2003 Its a Boy!
Re: What's in Your Toybox?--SENSITIVE MATERIAL
Wow, what a way to turn people away from this board. I hope this thread is one of the last people see.
I think if you actually used a vibrator at some point, you'd change your mind pretty fast. I was totally against sex toys, but my hubby wanted to try them and hey, I've got no complaints. Someday you might get tired of the same old thing all the time (yes, it happens) and if you're not open to sex toys, you don't really have many other options.
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How dare someone say I am lower than a whore because I use a vibrator. Right now I am almost 9 months pregnant, and it HURTS when my DH enters me. I use a vib on my clitoris because I still want to have the big O. I think I should be commended for still feeling like a woman and wanting to orgasm, instead of just sitting around waiting to be a mommy. I have tons of pornos and toys, too, and they are great when I feel like using them. Sometimes you just want regular sex, and sometimes you want something different. Don't criticize people unless you know what you are talking about!
Bambiying (30) <BR> DH (40) <BR> EDD 2/17/03 <BR> Welcome Donovan Patrick into the world!
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I am one of those poor pathetic people who can't get anywhere near an o without a vibrator. So call me lower than dirt if you want, but I love the thing - and DH does, too! When I use it on the outside, he can feel it on the inside. In fact, we have quite a few "toys" that we like to use from time to time. It doesn't mean we aren't capable of having sex without them, it just means we are adventurous enough to try something fun and different.
Sorry - but you can't go around bashing something you've never tried!
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Quite frankly, why would anyone care what your opinion of vibrators is?
You sound like a close minded, uptight prude.
I like vibrators and other toys. Even when I'm not pregnant. With my DH and without. I won't apologize or try to justify myself to you.
Why don't you decide what you want to do in your sexual life and I'll decide for me? No shut up and go away!
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Florida Mom, I'm curious how you expect to find any friendship or support on these boards when all you do is wander in and blurt out something really controversial and rude (I remember you from the circumcision board!). And when people get upset with you, instead of rethinking your statements you just get defensive and say "Hey, it's my opinion; I have a right to my opinion" no matter how offensively you stated your opinion.
I agree with everyone else who responded to this thread. It's fine to have an opinion, and it's fine to argue. It's even fun and informative when people can be civil about it. Consider how you would feel if I just randomly posted something like... "I think people who are judgemental and offer rude, unsolicited opinions and wouldn't know proper grammar if it bit them in the ass are NASTY!!"
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floridamom, one question: have you become acquainted with your clitoris? Do that....then you might realize that vibes aren't just meant to be "shoved up"someone, and what my vibe does for my my Dh's penis couldn't even begin to do.
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I don't understand the small penis comment. Do you even have a clue? My fiance is too BIG....which is already starting to present a problem. So yes, I've considered using other methods. But to be called worse than a whore for that....jeez.
The SD always says I have a toy box ...lol ... I also own porn , actualy alot of porn , more than most guys I know 
Rude or Immature?
But to be called worse than a whore for that....jeez. 
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