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Sugar Mtn Honeybee
New Student/Teachers Apprentice
Posts: 16
(9/15/04 7:30 pm)
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Pleasantly confused...
Doing medical transcription for 15 years, you get to hear more about people's physical and emotional problems than you will ever want to know. Often, when dealing with patients who have Alzheimer's, strokes, or other cognitive disorders, doctors would dictate, "The patient was confused and combative." I always pictured that state in my mind with a shudder. I thought how frightening it must be for someone to be confused to the point where they were combative with doctors, nurses, and hospital staff who were there to help them.
Occasionally, a doctor would dictate, "The patient is pleasantly confused." The patient in question may have believed she was back in 1922, visiting with family and friends long-dead in reality; but at least she was happy there. She was "pleasantly confused". I had mentioned this to my husband some time ago, and told him once that, if I ever end up with a doctor dictating that I am confused, I would definitely prefer to be "pleasantly confused", as opposed to "confused and combative".
After a stroke & with cerebrovascular disease and transient ischemic attacks, my own occasional confusion worried me at times. With fibromyalgia syndrome, there is also a phenomenon known as "brain fog", whereby confusion reigns and thoughts are difficult to process. Recently, my Hubby & I were on our way to the store. He offered to go in with me. I appreciated this offer very much and told him so. I explained to him that sometimes I get confused in the grocery store and that this was frightening for me. When this happens, all I want to do is pay for what I have, never mind what else is on the list, just pay and get out. Sometimes, I don't even want to pay. I would just prefer to leave the cart sitting there and run for the door. I don't, but I'd like to.
Hubby listened to all this with this wonderful expression on his face. He laughed and commented, "Sort of like being a crack-head without the crack, huh?" "I don't know," I answered, in all seriousness, "I've never done crack, so I guess I don't know how that feels..." He patted my hand, and said, "Pleasantly confused, honey, pleasantly confused." I laughed. "See," he told me, "I studied for that test.."
To me, that is love.
Sugar Mountain /
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Gaia Angel 
ezOP
Posts: 2130
(9/16/04 3:02 am)
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Re: Pleasantly confused...
and to me that is an amazing expression of it congrates to you both for completing eachother, to me, THAT is love! 
(and psst drone: DAMN good call!!!  )
ah come on I just had ta!
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lauriex
The gentle hearted
Posts: 183
(9/17/04 11:28 pm)
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Re: Pleasantly confused...
you're incredibly lucky, l think... at least, it seems as though you are. despite your illness, and all the pain it puts you through, there's something in your life that makes it all worthwhile... l hope that's what sam and l have, someday. right now, we're just... deeply in love, though that expresses more to me than it sounds. l dont know how else to explain it, reallly... congratulations indeed. a relationship like that takes effort, and it only works (in my opinion) if both parties are wiling to put equal effort into it.... l have to admit, in a way l'm kinda jealous. lol, hope you dont mind me posting this...
laurie.
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Sugar Mtn Honeybee
New Student/Teachers Apprentice
Posts: 18
(9/18/04 1:41 pm)
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Re: Pleasantly confused...
I agree with you both. This is the relationship I searched for all of my life and finally found. My illness could have torn us apart, but I think it has made us both realize that the time we have together is more precious & valuable because of that.
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