Where did the drive go Okay well this is my first pregnancy and i'm only in the first trimester my dh seems to keep staring at me and smiling and he seems to want to have sex more now than ever, the only problem is that wonderful sex drive that i used to have and wear him out with is no loinger there. Dont get me wrong i still find him attractive and i love him even more now than ever i just really am not in the mood to have sex or to even do anything sexual i used to give hand jobs when i wasnt feeling well in the past now im not even in the mood to do that...What is wrong with me. where has my sex drive gone?! and why is it so hard for the things that cvould get me turned on in seconds just annoy the hell out of me now?
If any of you are experianceing the same thing i would love to hear how you handle it and how you explained it to him with out him taking it personaly or feeling bad about it?
I feel for you, sweetie. I lost some drive early on, but it came back full force and then some the 2nd trimester. We were put on pelvic rest for four weeks in the 1st trimester, and we just found other ways to keep him happy. Sometimes I'd just let him masturbate and fondle me at the same time. Sometimes I'd masturbate him. It worked - it didn't last long, I didn't have to fight a nonexistent sex drive, and he felt like I cared enough to make him happy.
Hopefully, you'll experience that wild drive in the 2nd trimester (DH thought I'd stolen his wife, but he sure did love it!) and it will make up for lost time. In fact, I'm in my 3rd now, and it's still going strong. Just make sure he knows you still care, and find lots of ways to show him besides .
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I'm SO relieved to see this post. I am having the same problem and it has been bothering me to no end. Emotionally I am missing it but physically I want NOTHING to do with sex. And of course this is the time you want most of all to feel close to your mate. Not that we aren't emotionally close but at least in our relationship without the physical intimacy it just isn't the same. I'm very conscious of rejecting him. I don't think he's taking it personally but it still stinks. He is getting reluctant to show me any physical affection. Overall it is just one more thing that is worrying me and frankly I don't need anything else!!
THANK YOU for posting and reassuring me that it is just a part of pregnancy and others are experiencing it as well. This too shall pass right?
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Well, whenever you find your drive let me know, because I lost mine somewhere too!!! . I'm 25 weeks into it now and still no sign of it. Most people say it comes back for them in the 2nd trimester, LUCKY THEM! I'm still in "don't even think about touching me phase or i'm gonna snap". This is my second one and this pregnancy is completely different from the last, so don't give up hope.. My prayers are out there for you that yours like everyone elses comes back.
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I'm the same way. My sex drive has totally disappeared!!! I still love to cuddle with my hubby and still find him attractive but I just have no desire to have sex. I would rather save my energy. I do give in because I feel so bad and he understands, we've talked about it a lot and he understands that I really can't help it. I think talking about it has really helped. Now when he feels like he really needs it he lets me know and he's will be pretty quick about it if I want him to. There has even been times when we've turned on a porn movie and I gave him a handjob and that didn't even turn me on in least! I couldn't have cared less, it compared with washing the dishes! (hope I wasn't too graphic)
I'm glad to hear that this happens to others and I just hope for all of us that the drive comes back!!!
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I lost my drive early on too, and then it came back. I was surprised – it was as strong as it was when I used Sentia (supplements for women) long ago. I think that you shouldn’t worry. Think about your baby.
Where did the drive go
Okay well this is my first pregnancy and i'm only in the first trimester my dh seems to keep staring at me and smiling and he seems to want to have sex more now than ever, the only problem is that wonderful sex drive that i used to have and wear him out with is no loinger there. Dont get me wrong i still find him attractive and i love him even more now than ever i just really am not in the mood to have sex or to even do anything sexual i used to give hand jobs when i wasnt feeling well in the past now im not even in the mood to do that...What is wrong with me. where has my sex drive gone?! and why is it so hard for the things that cvould get me turned on in seconds just annoy the hell out of me now?
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