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Astara1 
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 217
(4/12/04 3:54 pm)
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Is this Love???
My ex never even tried, with even one word, to keep me from leaving the house we had together. He gave me an easter card the other day, he wasn't there when I opened it. I thought it was awful, it made me mad. On the front of the card it had a picture of a bunny hopping up and down, It read: "I"ve had it with you" on the inside it read: "Can I have it again".
He sent me an email today:" Hey how come you didn't say if you liked your easter card ? I liked the one you sent Me."
He capitalized "Me" because I didn't get him a card.
I wrote back telling him I hadn't liked the card, and where does he get off thinking we will still have sex when he wouldn't even bother spending any time with me, not even sitting at the table for a meal, much less taking me out. In fact, the past few years on my birthday, he had me meet him at the tavern for us to go out to eat from there, never left the tavern, all his friends thought it was a big joke. I vowed to myself I would never be the joke at the tavern again on my birthday(or any day lol!).
That's not love, that is nothing more than wanting sex, and I will not have sex just for the sake of having sex again.
I don't think he really has any love for me. There was no relationship.
Does this sound like the way someone that really loves another would treat them?
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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Valenstar 
Keeper of the games...Protector of Maidens and misfits (and all around Darlin ;))
Posts: 119
(4/12/04 4:10 pm)
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Re: Is this Love???
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Does this sound like the way someone that really loves another would treat them?
Two words.....
HELL NO!
Thats just wrong! That kind of behaviour doesnt deserve a guy anything but a punch in the nose or a kick somewhere to make him not want to think about sex!
Sorry, but I had to have my $1.50 in on this one. I cant stand to see a guy treating a woman badly like that, it bugs the hell out of me.
SHEEPLE
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 219
(4/12/04 6:43 pm)
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Thanks Valenstar, your opinion means a lot to me. 
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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shadeaux63
Keeper of the Stars
Posts: 504
(4/12/04 8:35 pm)
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Wow,I was going to say pretty much the same thing Ian said,but he beat me to it.Way to go,Ian!It sounded better coming from a man,too.
Next time an occassion rolls around where he would expect a card or gift,I have an idea for ya.Buy a blank card,with a cute picture on the front,and buy a bottle of hand lotion,and gift wrap it.Meet him at the tavern,and make sure ALL his friends are there.have him unwrap the lotion first,then have him open the card,which could read something like this,"Since you wont ever have me again,enjoy this with your new girlfriend,Miss Rosy Palms." Then just turn and walk out.
I think he might take the hint.
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narshaadha
Of the light hand and gentle Heart
Posts: 222
(4/13/04 8:29 pm)
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The description of your life with your ex makes me sad for you, astara. He was such a jerk. That was definitely not love, it was more a convenience for him I think. Shad had a good idea if you can ever stand to go out with this guy again, though!
narshaadha
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twaddle
Lady of the Open Heart and Loving Nature
Posts: 131
(4/14/04 4:03 am)
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Re: Is this Love???
Astara, on the surface, your husbands behaviour is so not what you would want in a guy, but i have to say that he sounds remarkably like the descriptions of husbands on the adult aspergers syndrome website. These guys really genuinely do not know what the people around them think and feel, and often act innapropriatly as a result - it is like a social mind blindness. While it may be too late to consider trying again with your husband, please try and check out this link when you have a moment, as you might find it answers a lot of questions about him in your mind, and it will reassure you that none of this is your fault. If you do recognise some of your husbands behaviours in other womens stories, then you will have found some answers, and do feel free to email me privately if you wish - i'll do my best to help!
www.faaas.org/
If you click on 'site map' at the bottom of the page, and then click ' case histories-reference ' it will link you to other womens stories.
Edited by: twaddle at: 4/14/04 4:11 am
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Gaia Angel 
Cranky Hedge Witch
Posts: 1177
(4/14/04 6:20 am)
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Personally speaking, paul missed the put out more then the emotional closeness. Thats not love.... thats horniness (oh come on like yall didnt know i was a ghetto witch at heart)
Till this day he complains more about the missing sex then the missing friendship. And to, I think, he felt while we were having sex he had a hold on me. Yes yes I put out on valentines day after not doing so for like nearly 2 years but he was all romantic and yada yada then *boom* hes a jerk next day lets just say it hasnt worked since and it wont.
Its not you baby, its him, and if you get that desperate theres a toy store in cinncinnati i can drop by and get ya a lil friend. I honestly beleive your reaction is valid
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wingedwolf5
Guardian of the feathered and furred
Posts: 26
(4/14/04 7:19 am)
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I'm so proud of you Astara!!!! I agree........ HELL NO THIS IS NOT LOVE!!!!! Onward and forward girlfriend.
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 220
(4/14/04 2:40 pm)
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Thanks everybody! WW..((((HUG))))
I'll check out that link.
Shad...
I have to get back to cleaning...
Got a real decent kinda man coming over for supper tonight. 
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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Scoty girl
The Crystal Angel
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(4/14/04 7:36 pm)
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 ....way to go Astara!!!!
~Often times, the greatest statements are made in silence....
Listen with your heart!~
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ladiravenmoon
Goddess of the Green
Posts: 162
(4/15/04 8:17 am)
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NO hun that isnt love, it is just what you said having sex for that sake of having sex, I was in a relationship like that once, it is degrading and humiliating, you deserve better, let him be the butt of the jokes at the tavern, let him sit there and stew waiting for you.
blessings
sherry
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 223
(4/15/04 10:14 am)
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After checking out that link I would say that describes my ex pretty well, especailly the "lack of common sense", and he has even more common sense than his mom or his brother...a hereditary affliction maybe....hmmm...
He is definately stewing Ladieravenmoon.
Anyway.....I have met the most wonderful man, he is nothing like the men I am used to(biker types). He even tells me that my hair is beautiful, does'nt need coloring....hehe. We talk about everything under the sun, he even borrowed my copy of the "Celestine Prophecy" to read.
And he doesn't hang out in taverns at all!
Astara
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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Scoty girl
The Crystal Angel
Posts: 198
(4/15/04 12:20 pm)
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....godd for you Astara!! You deserve it!
~Often times, the greatest statements are made in silence....
Listen with your heart!~
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 238
(5/1/04 9:38 pm)
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Sorry I haven't been here much, been playing the dating game!
I am going to have to make a choice between two very different men one of these days, can't keep them both, not enough time for myself or my friends otherwise.
I feel the most wonderful warm energy emanating from one of them, I've never felt an energy from anyone like that before.
I almost think I am falling in love, it scares me a bit, but it's exciting at the same time.
I was wondering if anyone else feels energy from their significant other in this way?
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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shadeaux63
Keeper of the Stars
Posts: 569
(5/2/04 12:00 pm)
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Absolutely,hon.And he probably feels the same energy coming from you.
Sure beats"Hey baby,let's do it." Huh?
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Gaia Angel
Cranky Hedge Witch
Posts: 1313
(5/3/04 9:02 am)
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i am so proud and happy for u!
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 240
(5/3/04 5:27 pm)
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Thanks Gaia!
So right Shad, I used to hear "we gonna have sex tonight?" turned me off completely!
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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Gaia Angel
Cranky Hedge Witch
Posts: 1318
(5/3/04 6:44 pm)
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Ok my puter was fluckering up earlier and i wasnt feeling good....ASTARA START A "VICKYS men thread"! Itll be fun watching you bloom again! pweaseeeeeeee pweaseeeeeeeeeeee lil pouty lip pweaseeeeeeee
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narshaadha
Of the light hand and gentle Heart
Posts: 270
(5/3/04 7:47 pm)
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This is not a sarcastic question, astara, so please don't take it that way, but if you are feeling a wonderful warm energy from the one guy, what keeps you interested in the other one?
narshaadha
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Astara1
The Golden Angel and Protector of the shadows
Posts: 241
(5/5/04 5:58 pm)
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That is an excellent question Naarshadha.
Hmmm....I think I really needed to hear that!
I've been going back and forth in my mind about having to make a choice between the two, and it's really so simple, the warm energy I feel is love, and I need to go with my feelings.
I guess it's the fact that the one guy will be hurt, but I can't go into the wrong relationship to keep someone else from feeling pain, cause it will be short lived pain, he will get over me and find someone else, and I and the other man will find happiness together.
Jeez Naarsh, thankyou!!!!!!
~Dreams are your own unique source of guidance and healing~
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narshaadha
Of the light hand and gentle Heart
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(5/5/04 7:44 pm)
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 You are so welcome....though I don't feel like I did anything......the answer was inside of you, you know, just needed someone to ask the question!
narshaadha
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