I think I'm strong enough now, can I try being a bubble head for a while?
Blue Registered User
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(3/14/04 1:37 am) Reply
Re: reDeShaz
Quote:It is not a place of passion
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I can not speak for others, and my apologies for trying to hand out anything that appears to be advice. My truths are not yours - fair statement.
I do not believe that passion is a place. I do not believe that happiness is achieved. I do not believe one can find love. Abundance is not created. For me, each of these things is life. Passion is not an extention of my surroundings, it is an expression from within. I live with passion because I am passionate. I did not find love, I gave it away freely and someone gave it back. I am happy because I want to be - it is not dependant on someone else because it's not my right to force that obligation on them to ensure my happiness.
Life is full of abundance, and you must live it to have it. Abundance is like water - it flows, and has tremendous power when it does. Try to stop it up, hang on to it, keep it, and like water it loses it's power, becomes stagnant and rots.
It's been said that the root of all anger is fear and the root of all stress, expectations. We're programmed to be afraid - of not fitting in, of not finding love, of no approval, of not measuring up. All of those things come from within. You can not love someone else unless you love yourself. How can you accept someone until you've accepted your own being? Who's standard can have more importance than your own?
If I do not expect anything, the outcome of an event can not cause stress. People don't like the idea of no expectations because it creates unknown, but the truth is you dont' know, you only assume. Past history would have me believe that when I open my eyes tomorrow, my wife will be by my side, or somewhere in our tiny apartment. I'm lead to think I have the right to assume this based on past history. The reality is that any number of things may happen between the time I go to bed and the time I open my eyes tomorrow. She may suddenly realize she wants another life and leave me without warning. She may be out getting the paper. She may be out jogging, or having an affair. The possibilities of what can happen are endless and for the most part out of my control. I can not reasonably expect anything of her. The fact that she is with me every morning is testament to my winning the lottery each day and for that I am humble, but I do not expect it.
Control your fear and expectations, love and accept yourself as you are, discover your true self and live.
Don't exist, this isn't a practice life. Live every moment. Life and thus time is the only thing of true value - you can not recover a single second, not one moment in time. It is the singular resource that can not be replenished, can not be saved for future use but is sold, traded, wasted as if it had no value. The future is not your possesion and you do not own it. You have your past, existed in each moment of it, and you have each moment of the present, but you have no right to the future nor reason to expect it. It is not a given.
I don't mean to convey that I'm consistently happy, never stressed and never sitting around picking my nose. Far from it. These are my goals - to live with happiness, to love myself, to accept life as it is while forging ahead with my life and to never stop learning.
manniac dharma explorer
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(3/14/04 7:55 am) Reply
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Excellent post, Blue. Buddha couldn't have said it better.
Blue Registered User
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(3/14/04 11:54 am) Reply
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Thank you Manniac but I don't think so. I'm just a man trying to release my angel, nothing more.
Blue Registered User
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(3/23/04 11:28 pm) Reply
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Not that it takes any sort of significant training, education or expertise, but I'm going to be a Dad! Can hardly believe it. Scared, excited and any number of other emotions coursing through me these days.
Poor Ms. Blue is suffering significant morning sickness these days - don't think she's as excited as me anymore. Perhaps that's something to do with being entirely hollow. Even her new shoes make her ill. So much for the joy part.
Yah!
manniac dharma explorer
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(3/24/04 7:11 am) Reply
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Excellent news!
You thought your lives were full of surprises before....
Blue Registered User
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(3/30/04 10:54 pm) Reply
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Thank you folks, but let's be honest - thus far I haven't achieved anything of note. 20 years time we'll know how well I've done.
My wife on the other hand...sweet jezus she's sick. She barfs all day, every day, dawn til dusk. She heaves so often, so constantly, that it barely interrupts her dinner. Other times she's hurting so bad it looks like she's been hit by a freight train.
To suggest she's not happy at the moment is an understatement.
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