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I am new here. Coming in from the October boards. Had a D&C on Tues, due to blighted ovum. Would have been first baby, 2nd pregnancy. M/c'd in 12/02 also. Didn't think of joing one of these boards then, honestly didn't know about them, glad I don now... Currently am feeling like I am doing OK. Concentrating on the physical at the moment I guess. Feel tired and tender otherwise ok. Resting per Doc's and DH's orders. Went thru bad emotional stuff on Sunday and Monday. But nothing since. Really wanted my mom, who passed away in 11/01. Thinking of taking a trip to my in-laws to get some "motherly" attention. What do you think???
I happened to be blessed with a wonderful MIL, and know she is good for it. Just not sure of leaving my DH for long, since he has school and work. Anyway, I am sorry to have to meet you all under these circumstances, however am thankful to have someone who has gone thru some of the same things to talk too.
Crystal
m/c #1 12/02
m/c #2 03/03
Hello Crystal, I want to first tell you that I am very sorry for your loss. These are real hard times for you and all of your family and my prayers go out to you. Please know that you can count on us in these upcoming days for any help and support we can offer. I don't know what to say about the trip, only do what you think would make you feel better, now is a time to be kind to yourself since you have been through so much in such a short time.
Angie
Fernando (dh)
Married 8/22/98
Angels here on with me
Malcolm 4/27/89 My dream come true:Mayan & Marilyn 10/17/90 twins
Angels in Heaven
m/c 3/88:4/94: 3/3/03 and angel born at 24 wks butlived only a few hours Rodrigo Martin 8/8/88
Welcome and sorry
Crystal,
I am so sorry you have to come here but I am glad you found us. I am so sorry for both of your losses. I just had a blighted ovum as well. If you need motherly love then go for it. I am so sorry your mother is not here. That may make it harder I am sure. Just take your time to get grieve and "feel". Some days I feel pretty good others I want to cry and hide(today). I have found the ladies here to be so helpful.
Keep taking care of yourself.
karen
i'm so sorry.
i'm sorry for your loss sweetie. i too lost a baby on the 3rd of march.
taking a vacation to your MIL's sounds like a great idea. my MIL has been my surrogate mother as well.
i hope you get to feeling better. *HUGS*
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Crystal,
I'm sorry for your loss and you will recover physically soon . . . emotionally takes longer for most of us as you already know. sweetie and let us know what we can do to help. We will , , do whatever with you on this board! Everyone is wonderful.
Love,
Marie (27)
DH (32)
TTC #1 since March 2002
Angel lost 9 weeks 5 days 2-3-03
I'm very sorry for your loss ~ I too am from the October boards, however I've been here a lot longer. My breaks for you, because I know how you are hurting. I would like to say ... I always get sad when we have to welcome a , but on the flip side -- I'm so glad you found us. I cannot emphasize enough how much these women have helped me the past month, you really will not find a better group of friends!!
I hope you physically soon ~ take DH's advice and rest as much as possible. And I think its always a good idea to have some "motherly" or even another woman's comfort during these times ~ I'm so sorry about your mother. DH's are great, but they are (THANK GOD) not like women!
Well now, I've said too much I think ~ sorry!
Take care of your self and keep us updated!
I'm sorry about your loss. It's a sad thing to anyone on this board, b/c we know exactly what just happened. But you've come to the right place -- this is a great group of women.
I'm glad you're taking care of yourself physically. That's important right now. If you need your MIL's TLC, go for it. Reach out for love and support, don't be shy. Your DH will understand.
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Oh sweetie, I hate to see a new name on this board because it means another woman has suffered a loss. One loss is hard, but two is devastating, as many women on this board know. I am sorry you have to be here, but you are with open arms.
Please do whatever it takes to make you feel a bit better. My MIL has been so good to me through all of this, even better my than my own mother. I am so sorry that you don't have your mother to help you through this difficult time .
Lean on those you love and know that we are here to help support and encourage you. Make yourself at home and post whenever you need to....I have also found that helping other women who are going through a loss helped me to heal a bit faster... .
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Hi Crystal,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your losses!
WELCOME to our board though, there are so many wonderful, supportive women here, I really think it will give you some comfort!
I've lost 3 pregnancies and I've also lost my mom, so I know how hard both of those things are. At a time like this it would so nice to have your mom to lean on. I'm sorry!
It's nice that you are close with your MIL, I am too!
I say, if you can work it out, definately go see her - some getting taken care of and motherly love might be perfect right now!
Sorry you had to join us, but glad you did!
Take care!
Michelle
Madison Jordan, born to heaven 5/6/02 at 34wks
M/C's 8/29/02 and 1/24/03 at 7&10wks
I'm so sorry you're joining us here... but glad you found us! And I'm so sorry for your losses. I too have experienced 2 m/c's, the 2nd being twins. I know how hard it is and I don't know what I would've done without my mom. So, I say definitely you should go to your MIL's. That's great that you have her.... I know your mom is smiling down on you right now... and is thankful you have your MIL as well.
Please know we're always here for you.... take care of yourself right now especially.
Mimi- Co-Moderator of Loss Support married 12/06/97 began ttc #1 06/01 m/c 11/27/01 and twins 9/24/02 email me mimi7677@hotmail.com
Hi Crystal, I am so sorry that you are joining us. I hope that you will find comfort and strength fromt these ladies. They are wonderful.
I'm sorry about the loss of your mother too. My mom helped me out and I do agree that you should go to your MIL. She is there to help you and we are here to help you as well
Wendy DW to Clay Twin Angels, edd 12/9 Twin A, Abbey our First Angel in Heaven @ 8 wks, 5/03/02 Twin B, Madison Grace, born in Heaven @ 27 wks, 9/10/02
First of all I want to you to the group. It is really great here. Secondly, I am very sorry for your losses. I know how hard it is. I had a mc at 6 weeks in 9/00, followed by 2 blighted ovums. One in 4/02 and another one just 2 weeks ago. I have my good days and then I have my very bad days I don't know how to make the pain go away but I can be here to try to help you get through the days ahead.
Kerri 28
dh Matt 31
ds Jeff 6
My 3 angels in heaven 9/18/00, 4/11/02, 3/12/03
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Went thru bad emotional stuff on Sunday and Monday. But nothing since. Really wanted my mom, who passed away in 11/01. Thinking of taking a trip to my in-laws to get some "motherly" attention. What do you think???
you will recover physically soon . . . emotionally takes longer for most of us as you already know. 
sweetie and let us know what we can do to help. We will 
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, do whatever with you on this board! Everyone is wonderful.
breaks for you, because I know how you are hurting. I would like to say 
, but on the flip side -- I'm so glad you found us. I cannot emphasize enough how much these women have helped me the past month, you really will not find a better group of friends!! 
rest as much as possible. And I think its always a good idea to have some "motherly" or even another woman's comfort during these times ~ I'm so sorry about your mother. DH's are great, but they are (THANK GOD) not like women!
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